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Guides to a Successful Long Distance Relationship (LDR)

Please read my previous posts on the upsides and downsides of LDRs.rg

Set ground rules
Rules exist to keep us accountable. We are not robots, so yes, some of these rules will be broken, but as much as possible, stay committed to the rules. Here are a few tips for the rules – make them measurable, make them doable, evaluate your progress, and make them together as it is vital that you and your partner are in 100% agreement.

Communicate properly and daily
No matter how insignificant you think your feelings about something is, voice it out! Over-communicate! If you see a text you don’t understand, call. Your partner is not there; they cannot see anything outside the focus of the camera. Have conversations about big things like 401k’s and mundane things like sand. NOTHING is off-topic. If you desire to be loved in a certain way, it is your responsibility to voice this out to your partner.

Be Romantic
LDRs are no excuse not to be romantic. Thank technology for making our lives easier. Do not just do big things on Valentine’s Day, your anniversary, or birthdays. The small things truly add up!
Here are a few ideas that can really help: Continue reading

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Downsides to a Long Distance Relationship (LDR)

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If you missed it, catch up on the upsides to LDRs! As we established in the last post, LDRs are not for children! You have to be two mature individuals committed to making it work against all odds! I fully believe in doing your best in preparing for things – positive and negative. LDRs aren’t all cheery! Here are some of the tough realities.

Expensive
Travel is amazing, yes – but expensive. A certain level of financial stability is required in LDRs. Outside of the planned trips, there are some impromptu trips you will have to make for your partner. These could be the funeral of a close friend/ family, a serious illness, etc. Anyhow it goes, a lot of money goes on travel arrangements which could be a huge burden for a young, struggling couple.

 

No physical contact
According to Gary Chapman’s book on the 5 love languages, physical touch is one of those languages. If you’re in a LDR and you fall under this category, sorry! It’s a tough road ahead of ya! Say bye bye to cuddles, kisses, holding hands, looking deep into your lovers’ eyes, hugging, etc. On the bright side, time flies. In no time, you will be in your lover’s arms again.

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Upsides to Long Distance Relationships (LDR)

We are focusing on the positives of LDRs! Finding someone who is amazing enough to take all your weirdness in, and choose to love you, DAILY, in spite of your flaws or short comings is right up there in the list of amazing things that can happen in life! Do not allow anyone tell you LDRs don’t work! With love, commitment and maturity, you are set!

You learn how to communicate better
Listen – when the best you have is a video call; you will utilize it to the max! Thank you Whatsapp! The tiniest frown on your partner’s face would seem so pronounced and unavoidable, causing you to go, ‘baby, are you ok? Huh? Honey? Love? Sweets? Talk to me please.’ With the constant questioning, your partner will quickly start explaining his/ her deepest fears and concerns to you.

Your creativity peaks
When the weather gets a little chilly, AKA cuffing season, and your boo boo is ways from you, your mind gets busy! You start finding methods to touch them, without physical contact. Be it small notes tucked into different parts of their apartment when you do see them, or sending the cutest dog pictures, imagining what the future holds, how you would never leave their side when the distance closes, or playing games online – my favorite being a Sudoku competition (I CHALLENGE ANYONE WHO DARES!) Continue reading

Dear Bottled in Man

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I am sorry that you feel an unceasing pressure to carry on a weight that is too much for you. A weight that constantly breaks, desensitizes and destroys your soul. You do not have to go at it alone anymore. She is here for you.

I. Love. You. – This simple three-word sentence carries the most weight of any word combinations I know, because;

Love is patient
Love is kind
Love does not envy
Love does not boast
Love is not proud
Love does not dishonor others
Love is not self-seeking
Love is not easily angered
Love keeps no record of wrongs
Love does not delight in evil
Love rejoices in good
Love always protects
Love always trusts Continue reading

How I Almost Got Arrested (Video)

Hello friends,

Hope you’re all doing well! The moral of this story is to pay attention and be safe! Please let me know what you think about this video, and I will love to here your similar stories!

 

Love you,

Oreofe!

Getting to Know Nike Adeyemi (Video – Part 2)

Hello friends!

I hope you’ve all been doing well!

I had the pleasure of sitting down with the beloved Pastor Nike Adeyemi, a woman of substance and more! One of my biggest take aways from the second part of this interview is the power of being yourself. People will constantly have their own opinions of who you need to mold yourself into, but if you always succumb to that, you will lose yourself in the process.

This interview is packed with so much wisdom! We talk about relationships, living life deliberately and many more!

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I can’t wait to connect with you in the comment section!

In God’s love,

Oreofetalks!