First and foremost, THANK YOU! I truly appreciate you for taking this journey with me. I started my blog in May 2015, with one goal. I wanted my work to positively influence at least one person! I’m glad to say this goal has been exceeded, all thanks to God and you!
Over the years, I have shared various milestones with you – Successful internships, graduation with an honors in accounting, amazing trips across the world, landing a ‘good job,’ leaving said job, exploring a new field, and now, taking my passion for communication and a ‘good ol’ chat’ to the video scene.
I am so excited to now present to you, Oreofetalks videos! I am hosting them on YouTube. Please watch, like, leave a comment, tell me something I can do better, subscribe to my YouTube channel and share the video!
Just like the blogs, the videos will go live on Thursdays, I am still working on the time frame that works best. Please connect with me on all social media. I look forward to taking this exciting new journey with you!
When I made the decision to fast off all social media in January, the first thought that occurred to me was, ‘how can I leave my Snap chat!! (insert screaming emoji’s)!’ I really loved, or thought I really loved the convenience of keeping up with my friends without having to actually check up on them, and I enjoyed sharing my fun nature with the world. I also missed the interaction from my blog posts, which is why I’m asking that you all please subscribe to oreofetalks , so that you get an email notification every Thursday at 12 noon EST when a new post is up!
Here is what my month with NO social media showed/ taught me
Your real friends & family do not need social media to keep in touch with you. I was touched that about 80% of the relationships I value still went on with no change! And it was nice when people messaged or called me saying they miss me on SC, or asked me when I was coming back. If you corresponded with me a lot on social media, but did not contact me for a whole month because I was not exactly ‘easily reachable,’ I’ve put you in my acquaintance pool.
When you go to social gatherings, you socialize.
In a bid to keep up with the times, many people busy themselves with their phones so as not to appear ‘awkward’ in public hangouts. I love meeting new people, but I’m guilty of scrolling through IG and ignoring the person sitting by my side sometimes. When I went out, no social media forced me to talk and connect to people because I didn’t have ‘stories to watch.’ Continue reading →
The journey to identifying one’s purpose is probably one of the most important, tedious, and most rewarding trips you’ll ever embark on. I’m a strong believer that we’re all born with great talents and gifts unique each individual. There are some things we do with absolutely no struggle, and genuinely enjoy doing, while others suffer and struggle to do them. If you haven’t properly identified your purpose at 9, 12, 20, 50, or 60, please take that trip. There’s no age as to when exactly you have to know what your purpose is, but whenever you do, you’ll see that your life becomes richer, and you’re satisfied!
2016 has been an amazing year for me… great accomplishments, and tremendous realizations of adulthood that rocked me hard (to tears more times that I’d like to admit!) Haha! I learned some lessons this year…some of them may be cliché, but I implore you to take a moment and soak it all in…
Learn how to live and love.
Live in the moment.
Do not sweat the small AND the big stuff.
Do whatever brings you joy – please, also bring Jesus joy.
We all fall… Don’t beat yourself too hard.
Don’t remain in ANY toxic relationship, NOTHING is worth that.
Since moving to America in July 2010, I’ve seen the naira currency rate go from N150 to N500 for $1.00. Even at the low rate of N150, I had the mindset that I didn’t want my parents to spend their hard earned naira, in dollars. I asked for a small amount for pocket money, and did my best to make up the rest to live to a standard I liked.
For some reason, it was hard for me to get a consistent student job, so here are a few odd jobs I have done to provide money for myself because, man must chop!
Hair making: America cannot come and kill me because I want fine hair. The cost of getting your hair done is HIGH! I started by practicing on my cousins. Soon enough, I became decent enough to charge for services: perming, weave in’s, braiding, twisting, crotchet, etc. I particularly HATE doing hair (especially braids) as it takes ages, and makes my lower back hurt so much.I got to charge up to $120 at some point for this, so I stuck it out. I remember taking out a weave a few years ago, and I wanted to get big braids. I called around, the cheapest I found was $80. I’m Ijebu, smh, they playing themselves! I played my good ol’ Grey’s Anatomy and sat in front of my bathroom mirror. Four hours later, I accomplished the task of braiding my hair myself.
Cooking: I’m a great cook, but it’s another thing I don’t enjoy doing. The idea of cooking for money happened when one lady tried my Ogbona and asked how much I charge. Oh, I quickly owned up to the thing (although as at that point, I’d never charged for food haha!). I did my research, and before long, I was making upwards of $80 for my bowls of Egusi, EfoRiro, Okra Soup, and our ever faithful Naija Jollof. I dabbled into the meat pie business, but the streez is plenty! Ain’t nobody got time for that, lol! Continue reading →
Happy is the man who doesn’t give in and do wrong when he is tempted, for afterwards he will get as his reward the crown of life that God has promised those who love Him. – James 1:12
On our path to spiritual maturity, temptations will come along. They serve as opportunities to do good. Yes, temptations are Satan’s primary weapon to destroy us, but God plans to use it to develop us. Every time we chose to do good instead of sin, we are growing in the character of God. Abundance of the fruit of the spirit: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control will help us overcome any temptation thrown at us. We learn best to love when we can show love to mean people, we learn faithfulness the more we do good when no one is watching. You can’t claim to be good if you’ve never been tempted to do bad, so for us to gauge the growth of these characteristics of God we ought to posses, we need to be tempted.
HOW TEMPTATION WORKS Satan is predictable. He’s used the same strategy since creation. From the bible, we learn that temptation follows a four-step process:
For our light and monetary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that outweighs them all. II Corinthians 4:17
As much as we don’t like to experience pain, and as tough are our troubles may appear, every problem has a purpose.
In my most profound time of darkness, where everything concerning the plans I’d come up with for my future appeared bleak leading to depression for about a month, I started out on this journey to find my purpose. I strive to live a life modeling Jesus Christ at all times, but I wouldn’t have started this journey, or gotten to the point where I sacrificed everything that meant something to me in order to align my life in accordance to God’s purpose. My experience echoed the words of Paul in II Corinthians 1:9 “We felt we were doomed to die and saw how powerless we were to help ourselves; but that was good, for then we put everything into the hands of God, who alone could save us, for he can even raise the dead.”
This is a hard topic for me to write on because I like to steer clear from the talk of “bad things happen for a reason,” Continue reading →