2016 has been an amazing year for me… great accomplishments, and tremendous realizations of adulthood that rocked me hard (to tears more times that I’d like to admit!) Haha! I learned some lessons this year…some of them may be cliché, but I implore you to take a moment and soak it all in…
Learn how to live and love.
Live in the moment.
Do not sweat the small AND the big stuff.
Do whatever brings you joy – please, also bring Jesus joy.
We all fall… Don’t beat yourself too hard.
Don’t remain in ANY toxic relationship, NOTHING is worth that.
Since moving to America in July 2010, I’ve seen the naira currency rate go from N150 to N500 for $1.00. Even at the low rate of N150, I had the mindset that I didn’t want my parents to spend their hard earned naira, in dollars. I asked for a small amount for pocket money, and did my best to make up the rest to live to a standard I liked.
For some reason, it was hard for me to get a consistent student job, so here are a few odd jobs I have done to provide money for myself because, man must chop!
Hair making: America cannot come and kill me because I want fine hair. The cost of getting your hair done is HIGH! I started by practicing on my cousins. Soon enough, I became decent enough to charge for services: perming, weave in’s, braiding, twisting, crotchet, etc. I particularly HATE doing hair (especially braids) as it takes ages, and makes my lower back hurt so much.I got to charge up to $120 at some point for this, so I stuck it out. I remember taking out a weave a few years ago, and I wanted to get big braids. I called around, the cheapest I found was $80. I’m Ijebu, smh, they playing themselves! I played my good ol’ Grey’s Anatomy and sat in front of my bathroom mirror. Four hours later, I accomplished the task of braiding my hair myself.
Cooking: I’m a great cook, but it’s another thing I don’t enjoy doing. The idea of cooking for money happened when one lady tried my Ogbona and asked how much I charge. Oh, I quickly owned up to the thing (although as at that point, I’d never charged for food haha!). I did my research, and before long, I was making upwards of $80 for my bowls of Egusi, EfoRiro, Okra Soup, and our ever faithful Naija Jollof. I dabbled into the meat pie business, but the streez is plenty! Ain’t nobody got time for that, lol! Continue reading
Happy is the man who doesn’t give in and do wrong when he is tempted, for afterwards he will get as his reward the crown of life that God has promised those who love Him. – James 1:12
On our path to spiritual maturity, temptations will come along. They serve as opportunities to do good. Yes, temptations are Satan’s primary weapon to destroy us, but God plans to use it to develop us. Every time we chose to do good instead of sin, we are growing in the character of God. Abundance of the fruit of the spirit: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control will help us overcome any temptation thrown at us. We learn best to love when we can show love to mean people, we learn faithfulness the more we do good when no one is watching. You can’t claim to be good if you’ve never been tempted to do bad, so for us to gauge the growth of these characteristics of God we ought to posses, we need to be tempted.
HOW TEMPTATION WORKS
Satan is predictable. He’s used the same strategy since creation. From the bible, we learn that temptation follows a four-step process:
For our light and monetary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that outweighs them all. II Corinthians 4:17
As much as we don’t like to experience pain, and as tough are our troubles may appear, every problem has a purpose.
In my most profound time of darkness, where everything concerning the plans I’d come up with for my future appeared bleak leading to depression for about a month, I started out on this journey to find my purpose. I strive to live a life modeling Jesus Christ at all times, but I wouldn’t have started this journey, or gotten to the point where I sacrificed everything that meant something to me in order to align my life in accordance to God’s purpose. My experience echoed the words of Paul in II Corinthians 1:9 “We felt we were doomed to die and saw how powerless we were to help ourselves; but that was good, for then we put everything into the hands of God, who alone could save us, for he can even raise the dead.”
This is a hard topic for me to write on because I like to steer clear from the talk of “bad things happen for a reason,” Continue reading
People need more than bread for their life; they must feed on every word of God. – Matthew 4:4
Spiritual growth is the process of replacing lies with truth. To become like Jesus, we must fill our lives with his Word. II Timothy 3:17 says, “Through His Word we are put together and shaped up for the tasks God has for us.” The word of God breathes live. Literally, creation came to being through His Word. The bible does not simply signify a doctrinal guidebook. The Word of God generates life, creates faith, produces change, frightens the Devil, causes miracles, heals hurts, builds character, transforms circumstances, imparts joy, overcomes adversity, guarantees our future!! People, we cannot live without the Word of God! God’s Word is the spiritual nourishment we must have to fulfil our purpose.
More than ever, we have unlimited, free access to God’s Word, but many of us are guilty of not abiding in the word. In our day-to-day living, abiding in God’s word involves the following three activities:
I must accept its authority: The bible must be our authoritative standard for life, having the first and the last word. Many troubles we face occurs because we base our choices on unreliable authorities like culture, emotion, tradition or reason. Continue reading