Is there an age when it’s understood that you can no longer wait? What should we do with ourselves when we get horny? (Yes, virgins, or the holiest people get horny too). Is the emphasis on sex too much? Why do people want to give virgins a medal, but no one is giving a medal to someone who isn’t a glutton? According to the bible, these are both sins. Is it because of the possible soul ties created during sex? In the bible days, waiting was easier because they got married almost after the girls started their menstruation. Today, the average age of marriage is 27 for women, and 29 for men.
These are some questions that have been heavy on my mind lately. I don’t have the answers to them, but some of my fav gals have so generously shared a large part of their journey. The answers I am sharing are from young ladies, so again, I don’t know about older single women, say age 30+, but God help us all! I was really blessed by their responses, and so thankful that I have a rich poll of loved ones.
Grace: Engaged, getting married @23.
Me: I’m sure this is a private for you and bae, but as a Christian dating, how possible is it to remain pure? How far becomes too far? How do you draw the line on your passion? I’m struggling with this, and I’m not even committed to one person, yet… so I’m just really curious. Can this be achieved?
You need love
You want love
You deserve love
It’s the time of the year again
Where the raindrops scream cuddle me
And the grocery stores get red
With expectations that the lover and the loved will fill the aisles
People give gifts
People receive gifts
People show love
People receive love
If you’re in love, bask in it
Forget the fights
Enjoy the thrills
You know that fall… the one that makes you question why you ever wore those shoes, or why you wore the over-restraining skirt. I’m talking about the fall where you feel as though you will always be in pain. The fall that makes your head spin in ways you never thought possible? Those falls are horrible… but you get up, you do the best you can to stand, even if you need someone or a couple of people to pull you up. You may need to go to the nurse, or the ER, depending on the magnitude of the fall. You may need to lay off those shoes that triggered the fall for a while, and you may need to use an ice pack, pain meds, but you do all that you can to nurse yourself back to good health.
If your fall was VERY bad, you may need to get stitches… I don’t know about you, but I’ve never seen any pretty stitches. They are ugly, but after a while, the doctor takes it out, and the body does what it’s designed to do. You grow new skin to clear things up again. Unfortunately, in some cases, a scar is left… Although healed, the scar is there to show you that you are a victor! You overcame the ordeal. Continue reading
Happy is the man who doesn’t give in and do wrong when he is tempted, for afterwards he will get as his reward the crown of life that God has promised those who love Him. – James 1:12
On our path to spiritual maturity, temptations will come along. They serve as opportunities to do good. Yes, temptations are Satan’s primary weapon to destroy us, but God plans to use it to develop us. Every time we chose to do good instead of sin, we are growing in the character of God. Abundance of the fruit of the spirit: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control will help us overcome any temptation thrown at us. We learn best to love when we can show love to mean people, we learn faithfulness the more we do good when no one is watching. You can’t claim to be good if you’ve never been tempted to do bad, so for us to gauge the growth of these characteristics of God we ought to posses, we need to be tempted.
HOW TEMPTATION WORKS
Satan is predictable. He’s used the same strategy since creation. From the bible, we learn that temptation follows a four-step process:
For our light and monetary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that outweighs them all. II Corinthians 4:17
As much as we don’t like to experience pain, and as tough are our troubles may appear, every problem has a purpose.
In my most profound time of darkness, where everything concerning the plans I’d come up with for my future appeared bleak leading to depression for about a month, I started out on this journey to find my purpose. I strive to live a life modeling Jesus Christ at all times, but I wouldn’t have started this journey, or gotten to the point where I sacrificed everything that meant something to me in order to align my life in accordance to God’s purpose. My experience echoed the words of Paul in II Corinthians 1:9 “We felt we were doomed to die and saw how powerless we were to help ourselves; but that was good, for then we put everything into the hands of God, who alone could save us, for he can even raise the dead.”
This is a hard topic for me to write on because I like to steer clear from the talk of “bad things happen for a reason,” Continue reading
People need more than bread for their life; they must feed on every word of God. – Matthew 4:4
Spiritual growth is the process of replacing lies with truth. To become like Jesus, we must fill our lives with his Word. II Timothy 3:17 says, “Through His Word we are put together and shaped up for the tasks God has for us.” The word of God breathes live. Literally, creation came to being through His Word. The bible does not simply signify a doctrinal guidebook. The Word of God generates life, creates faith, produces change, frightens the Devil, causes miracles, heals hurts, builds character, transforms circumstances, imparts joy, overcomes adversity, guarantees our future!! People, we cannot live without the Word of God! God’s Word is the spiritual nourishment we must have to fulfil our purpose.
More than ever, we have unlimited, free access to God’s Word, but many of us are guilty of not abiding in the word. In our day-to-day living, abiding in God’s word involves the following three activities:
I must accept its authority: The bible must be our authoritative standard for life, having the first and the last word. Many troubles we face occurs because we base our choices on unreliable authorities like culture, emotion, tradition or reason. Continue reading
God wants us to grow up… like Christ in everything. – Ephesians 4:14a
Our heavenly father desires that we mature and develop the characteristics Jesus Christ displayed while on earth. Spiritual growth is not like physical growth, which happens regardless of what we do, but spiritual growth takes an intentional commitment. Our commitment defines who we are, and shows who we will soon become. Many of us are afraid to commit, and end up drifting through life. Others make half-hearted commitments which leads to frustration and mediocrity. And some make a full commitment to worldly goals and end up disappointed and bitter.
God’s part and your part: Christlikeness is the result of making Christ-like choices and depending on the Spirit of God to help us fulfil those choices. Continue reading