‘The worst thing anyone can do, is to take advantage of how good and nice someone is to them, and how much they love and care for them. It pretty much feels like being stabbed in the heart.’ – Rosemary Inegbese.
Funke was living her happy life when Dinko decided he would ignite a friendship. Funke, the lovely lady that she is, decided to give this friendship a shot. Funke had never been one to believe in strong friendships with people of the opposite sex because, so many times in the past, she crossed the line between her ‘close male friends.’ Dinko seemed like a rather decent guy. He did not have any problems, really easy to communicate with, caring, and good looking. Their budding friendship lasted for a few months, before the feelings evolved into something bigger.
Dinko and Funke started ‘dating,’ but in true fashion of what most of the dating scenes look like today, there were no titles attached to their relationship. But what do you call a ‘friendship’ where you stay on the phone for hours, sleep off to the snoring of the other party, exchange gifts, over use the kissy face emojis, hold hands, cuddle, kiss, and pretty much ‘be in a relationship? It’s called ‘situationship.’ Beat that. This went on for a few happy months. Funke is the go-to-girl for relationship advice. She is well known by her friends for not sugar coating anything, which allows them fully rely on Funke for solid, unbiased advice. With her being the star of this ‘mess,’ her view unequivocally got hazy.
‘Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life.’ – Proverbs 4:23
Dinko has a bad habit of going into intense mood swings that makes he go from saying; ‘you’re the best thing that’s happened to me,’ on Tuesday, to texting ‘ye’ to Funke’s ‘are you ok babe’ text on Friday. The first time this happened, Funke was honestly confused. To be fair to Dinko, he was dealing with a tough family situation. Funke called about a week after… Dinko called off their ‘situationship.’ Funke is every girl’s dream after a breakup. She moves on rather smoothly and doesn’t break a sweat after lost ‘would-have-been-love. She did this with Dinko.
Dinko started reaching back out after a while. She entertained it for a bit, until she realized she could not harm herself again. She turned stone cold to Dinko.
‘Apologies don’t always warrant kindness and understanding. Move on, practice forgiveness, and put down all of your anger and resentment, but when someones’s actions have been exceptionally unkind or malicious you are under no obligation to show them compassion.’ – Beau Taplin
Dinko reached out yet again, after an unfortunate life wrecking incident happened to him. Funke was there. In all ways, always, Funke was there. After a few weeks, doubtlessly, their situationship, take II, recurred. It went well… Too ashamed to say anything Dinko went cold… it was off. In true Funke fashioned, she stormed on to do great things in life without batting an eye.
A little over a year later, in true Dinko fashion, he gradually started working his way in. He did this with a grand gesture that touched Funke, while apologizing for his flakiness. Welcome to situationship from the devil, take III. At this point, they know each other well, so there was no time wasted in the ‘let’s get to know each other phase.’ They went innn, or so it seemed like. Again, with no titles, but with EVERYTHING that qualifies as a relationship.
Funke, is a smart woman. It may not look that way with her letting Dinko in, over and again. But this time, she went in with her walls high as the sky, and with an intention to play out this shit of a man. What does Dinko want to hear? ‘I love you?’ She gave him that.
Warning: Don’t try this at home, simply because we may not be as strong as Funke. She pretended to love Dinko. He promised this time was it, he sent beautiful messages, he loved on her, he did his best, but at the back of her mind, she always knew: ‘this cannot be love, because she knew and had experienced love.
Love is not hurtful. Love is not painful. Love is not ill-will. Love does not make you sick to your stomach. Love does not lay hands on you. Love forgives, love desires, love covers, love heals. Love is life. Love is a slice of God. – Oreofetalks.
Funke she could smell the wickedness of Dinko’s heart, one full of the incapability of love, from a mile away. She should not have dabbled in, the third time over, but she did, and she pretended it was all sunshine and rainbows. Dinko went cold. Funke went cold. Their situationship died. Hopefully, never to be revived.
You’ve got to question people’s intention with you before you allow yourself to dive in too deeply. Human beings are survivalists by nature, and are capable of doing just about anything to get ahead. They will abuse your generosity, trust, and tenderness and call it love… Be authentic to yourself. Be honest and kind to each other. Human beings aren’t rungs in a ladder, and you will never make it anywhere without a solid foundations, i.e true friendships, deep loves, and meaningful connections in your life.’ Beau Taplin.
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