When I made the decision to fast off all social media in January, the first thought that occurred to me was, ‘how can I leave my Snap chat!! (insert screaming emoji’s)!’ I really loved, or thought I really loved the convenience of keeping up with my friends without having to actually check up on them, and I enjoyed sharing my fun nature with the world. I also missed the interaction from my blog posts, which is why I’m asking that you all please subscribe to oreofetalks , so that you get an email notification every Thursday at 12 noon EST when a new post is up!
Here is what my month with NO social media showed/ taught me
Your real friends & family do not need social media to keep in touch with you.
I was touched that about 80% of the relationships I value still went on with no change! And it was nice when people messaged or called me saying they miss me on SC, or asked me when I was coming back. If you corresponded with me a lot on social media, but did not contact me for a whole month because I was not exactly ‘easily reachable,’ I’ve put you in my acquaintance pool.
- When you go to social gatherings, you socialize.
In a bid to keep up with the times, many people busy themselves with their phones so as not to appear ‘awkward’ in public hangouts. I love meeting new people, but I’m guilty of scrolling through IG and ignoring the person sitting by my side sometimes. When I went out, no social media forced me to talk and connect to people because I didn’t have ‘stories to watch.’
- You sleep more, and can start your day without your phone.
In the past, the last thing I did before bed, and the first thing is the morning was check social media! I’ve always, and will always have my notifications turned off, but I still always wanted to check to see what I missed in 6 -7 hours! With no social media, I feel asleep soon after I hit the bed, and in the morning, I brought out my physical bible and studied a few verses! If you prefer your phone, I highly recommend using the study plans in the Bible App.
- You get centered, and you’re motivated to find a true source of joy from inside.
I was not having a great experience at work (which takes about 55 hours a week). This negatively affected my outlook on a lot of things… In January, with no social media to pass time with, I allowed God fill me, and I was able to start walking in the direction of my dreams/ life aspirations. I figured out a few side hustles I am interested in, and started the process to bring them to life.
- You value yourself more
I’m a very confident woman. Yet, there have been moments where social media still made me question certain things. I’d think, ‘Oh, when will I be able to afford this!’, ‘Why can’t I do as well as…,’ ‘I want that relationship!’ etc. Social media could be very deceitful. You only find a few people who are 100% true on there. Please don’t believe the facade… define your own happiness and go with that!
- You make organic decisions and cultivate a closer relationship with God
With no one to offer unsolicited advice; good, or bad, you’re able to be the key decision maker in your life. No need to ask the internet for option A, or B. You are now the sole determinant of that! I chose to fast off social media because I know the amount of time I spent on there was ridiculous! My going off really freed up time for me to enjoy intimacy with Christ, you know you gotta keep that Holy Ghost fire burning!
I love social media! I could even write a post on the benefits of social media, but I’ll leave you with this: Enjoy your social media. Post, like, love, share, etc. But when it gets to the point where you spend more than 1 – 2 hours daily on social media, please re-evaluate. There are so many other areas of your life that could use attention. Please remember to share and comment if you enjoyed this. Also, remember to subscribe so you won’t miss another post!