No matter what I say, what I believe, what I do, I am bankrupt without love. -I Corinthians 13:3b
Life is all about love – revolves around love. God is love, and He wants the most important lesson we learn on earth to be how to love… the greatest commandment tells us to love others as we love ourselves. Loving unselfishly is not an easy task to learn, but stay encouraged as we have a lifetime to learn it.
In John 13:35, God tells us: “Your strong love for each other will prove to the world that you are my disciples.” God is so adamant that we express love totally because He wants our display of love to be the witness to others.
We have enough practice on learning how to love by loving our family. Sometimes, I don’t want to do as much as look at my siblings, but that’s impossible, we live together!! In those instances where humans we are kinda obliged to love are so imperfect, irritating, not-fun-to-be-around, we learn these three important truths:
The best use of life is love: Love is not just a good part of your life- it’s the most important part. In I Corinthians 14:1, we’re told, “let love be your greatest aim!” That’s why relationships are so important to many people. Love is such a powerful driver. Outside the guideline of God, people will kill, fight and do any kind of crazy thing for love.i. Life without love is really worthless. Of the Ten Commandments, six deal with our relationships with people. After learning to love God (worship), which we identified as our first purpose, learning to love others is the second purpose of our life. When we get too busy, one of the first things we let go is the time and energy we invest in relationships. It’s not to be so. If we don’t have people rooting for us in our corner, it’s all worth nothing.
ii. Love will last forever. I Corinthians 13:13 says, “Three things will last forever–faith, hope, and love–and the greatest of these is love.” Love leaves a lasting legacy… When people are on their deathbeds, they don’t ask for their awards, or diplomas, or house titles – no! They asked that they be surrounded with their loved ones. Let’s figure this out sooner. I’m not saying don’t pursue great goals academically and professionally, neither am I saying you continue to invest a lot in a relationship where it’s 100% one-sided, but I am saying that love is what matters the most. Our interpretation will be different, but our goal is the same, to love.
iii. We will be evaluated on our love. In Matthew 25:40, Jesus said, ‘Truly I tell you, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me.’ In eternity, God will ask about your relationships – while you’re here, make it count.
The best expression of love is time: When you give someone your time, you’re giving him or her a portion of your life you will never get back. One of the things that propelled me to take this journey to purpose was the number of guys I’ve dated! With each guy, I’d spend unthinkable amounts of time talking to, talking of, praying for or thinking about the person. I always thought, ‘oh, I’m so young and fearless. I can afford to do this…’ It took so many pointless relationships for me to realize that I need to stop and re-focus. Loving and receiving love is one of the greatest feelings I’ve experienced, but that has to be done wisely. The idea of love is so misunderstood by so many people, but ultimately, we must remember that actions speaks the loudest. “You can give without loving, but you cannot love without giving.”
The best time to love is now: Proverbs 3:28 says, “never tell your neighbor to wait until tomorrow if you can help them now.’ Now is the best time to show love because you don’t know how long you will have. If you truly want to express love, get to it today! Send that text, give that call, let pride take a back seat. Show love, it makes the world go round J
Food for thought: Honestly, are relationships my first priority? How can I ensure that they are?