The journey to identifying one’s purpose is probably one of the most important, tedious, and most rewarding trips you’ll ever embark on. I’m a strong believer that we’re all born with great talents and gifts unique each individual. There are some things we do with absolutely no struggle, and genuinely enjoy doing, while others suffer and struggle to do them. If you haven’t properly identified your purpose at 9, 12, 20, 50, or 60, please take that trip. There’s no age as to when exactly you have to know what your purpose is, but whenever you do, you’ll see that your life becomes richer, and you’re satisfied!
I’ve always been a “talkative person!” Growing up, there was nothing I couldn’t say. I always got this phrase thrown at me in Yoruba: “enu e ti gboro ju”, it roughly translates to there’s nothing your mouth can’t say…honestly, it’s mostly holds a negative connotation, but you get the gist (cover my eyes). I form opinions, I see things, then I talk. Through all my talking though, I’m grateful I have always had an open-mind; again, I didn’t consciously work on any of these, so I appreciate them as gifts. The ability to befriend and love people with different faiths, sexual orientations, etc while still holding strong to my belief.
If you know my mom, you know I’m her “split”. It’s so funny because there are certain things she does as a parent that annoy me, and when I get over it, I go “oh Lord, I can so see myself doing that with my future children!” lol, yeah we’re very similar in our behaviors.
*** One of my followers reached out to me and said, “Oreofe, your style of writing permits me to only read your blogs when I’m in a certain mood – jolly. You jump around, and it’s too chatty.”
I employ you to stick through with it, and by the end of the blog post everything will come full circle for you!***
Back to mommy, in our misunderstandings, she’d always say, you can use this mouth to the glory of God! It’s a gift! Not everyone can act like you, yet it’s one thing they wish they could do. See what happened there, even when she was visibly angry with me, she tried her best to make something constructive come out of it. After hearing that a few times, and going through a phase when I needed to identify the purpose I was created for – the mandate I came into this beautiful, psychotic, weird world with, began to unfold…
I’m a connector. I connect with people on a personal level in a short time, I’m an encourager, I never feel the need for a one-up, I strive to push people to maximize the full potential I see in them. I’m a confronter; if you can’t hear the truth, delete me from your life. I speak up for the rights of others. I hate being wrong, but when I see that I’m in the wrong, I will apologize, BUT I HAVE TO SEE THAT I’M WRONG, lol! I never believed in apologizing for the sake of it, so if I tell you sorry, I mean it. I may go about getting what I want in peculiar ways (haha), but I get what I want.
At the age of 10 or so, I formed the opinion that “yes, I must poke my nose in my neighbors’ business.” People opened up to me as a child, I knew of rapes, financial situations with my friends’ family, and so many things. When I looked back to analyze my life so far, my love for people, it was undeniable, I found my gift. Connecting with people is my talent, showing love is my thing, and I love it!!
We’re all gonna die one day. If you’ve ever been important to me, I’d have emptied out my heart to you before then. I know it’s a way to grief, but to me, it’s pointless saying things about the dead if I never expressed that to them in my life time. This is one of the many reasons I started this blog, it’s a platform to welcome you all into my life. Life is too short to be so darn private, lol. As our relationship grows, I’d share some interesting things with you faithful readers 😀
Post discovering my purpose, I imagine what it will be like in > 5 years from now. My vision is big, and it will come to pass by the grace of God, but this is the time when I’m laying my foundation. I am reading books, loads of books, taking tests, secretly applying for jobs in my dream companies, identifying my strengths and my weaknesses, (and TRYING to work on the ones that simply must be fixed. Hello, impatience). Most importantly, @Oreofetalks is accepting herself for how she was made. No one is perfect, so there are always going to be things that need work, but for the things I’m good at, baby, imma keep at them, and become the best in those things. I’m my biggest cheerleader, I’ve got to be!
I have 4 siblings; none of us act alike, all different breeds with the same DNA. You’re a unique being. Find your identity. I can’t prescribe the best way for anyone to go about that journey, as it’s a very unique one, but if you have any questions, please don’t hesitate to ask, and I will give you guiding answers to the best of my ability.
I’d be doing a disservice if I leave this part out: the central point in finding my purpose has been my relationship with God. It’s one of the things that bring me unexplainable joy. Please, if you have any questions or comments on this, post away and by so doing, educate others and edify yourself. I have periods when I draw so close to God at every second of my living and thinking, and there have been times when I just say good morning and good night Jesus, lol. We all know this experience, but I tell you, if you never hear anything I say, hear this, knowing Him, my Savior, my Lord, has been the best thing that has happened to me, and it is the fundamental thing helped me understand the purpose I was created for, and the Holy Spirit continues to guide me into ways I can use my gifting to edify others.
My to-do-list: Write my goals and an affirmation over my life, and paste it on my wall. I’ve been meaning to do this for a while, as I’ve heard over and over that writing makes a difference, so maybe you can be my accountability partner. Bug me about it till I actually do it.
I pray the souls of those killed in Charleston, SC will rest in the bosom of our Lord, and God comforts their loved ones.
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