Stop! Don’t Cheat my Intellect!



I’m a big fan of tutoring people. If I understand a concept, and you don’t get it, please feel free to ask. This comes with a disclaimer though: I’m not the most patient person, so if after 3 rounds of explanations, you still don’t get it, I start speaking Dutch. At that point, we’d both need an interpreter, as I don’t understand Dutch, lol.

I get the principle of all fingers aren’t equal. It construes to me that certain things come easy to some, while others have to fight blood and sweat to get those. It doesn’t make life horrible, that’s just reality! At one point or the other, we’ve got to face it.

Kendall and I are in our final year of University, pursuing our degree in BBA accounting. As a final year student, there are some accounting related concepts that we’re not allowed to “think about.” We should be able to jump out of our sleep and say: Assets = Liabilities + Owners Equity! No sweat.

I like having study partners, but I have a few criteria for choosing them: no arrogance, and they have to be more intelligent than me. See, I have no problem with not being the most intelligent person in the room. Instead, I have a problem with being the most intelligent person in my circle! For me thrive intellectually, I have to swamp myself with people who challenge me- whom invariably turn out to be smart kids – book smart, street smart, or common sense smart.

How do I assess intelligence, you may wonder. I listen to the quality of the contribution you make in, and out of class (as I do believe people don’t have to have a formal [or any in rare cases] education to be intelligent). But for study partners, I could ask for help on a problem I already know how to solve to see if they know what they’re talking about, and how efficient their method is. When that is established, I then work my way into making you my study buddy for that class. Sometimes, we remain friends, other times the relationship ends with the class. I’m comfortable with either outcome.

On our first day of my Cost Accounting class, Kendall said, “hey, can we exchange numbers so we can be study partners?” I replied, “Yeah, of course!” At our first “study partners” meet, we decided to do one of our 3 assignments due. I don’t like the technicality of things, by that I mean download this, paste that, write your name here, etc. I just like to do the work and be done. Kendall was kind enough to walk me through the technical things, and we started our session. That assignment was an easy – medium difficulty level, but it was too long – 9 questions, with sub questions! No problem, let’s get to work!

Kendall asked me the first question: “How do we find sales?” Remember we’re in our final year. So, no, it’s not ok not to understand how to find sales: I told her: (selling price * units). Immediately after, “how do I find the cost of goods sold (COGS) per unit?” We were given the total COGS and the number of units… go figure. And this went on for about 20 minutes, question after question after question.

It didn’t take me too long to see the pattern. Kendall was not thinking through the problems. She chose to slow me down by making me walk her through every prompt, which she would have solved some other way had I not been available. I told her, “Hey boo, I don’t plan on staying in this library all day. Allow me explain the general concepts to you, and you should be good. But feel free to ask for help if you’re still unclear.” Kendall got displeased with me, saved her progress on the excel sheet, and said she’d complete the rest when she got home. I said ok, then turned my head, and faced my work.

After about 5 minutes she announced that she was leaving. My mind was relieved, and I thought “good riddance” I’m not in school to baby you through problems. Any relationship, especially one that has the word “partner” in it should be two-sided. I give, you give, and we’re good. The world could be difficult to navigate; I choose to rid myself of unnecessary relationships. Sometimes, they’re easy, as in this case, other times they’re hard to do… there in lies the beauty of it all, as we get the chance to take learned lessons and apply them to the future.

Again, Oreofe Talks thanks you for your love, and for all the encouraging messages sent! My heart is truly content.
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3 thoughts on “Stop! Don’t Cheat my Intellect!

  1. What if Kendall genuinely didn’t understand and considered you kind/empathetic enough to help her without making her feel less intelligent?


    • Hmm, that’s highly unlikely that she didn’t understand. The accounting program we have requires that you have at least a B, 86% in the two intro classes before you progress to take the major classes. Also, she came back the next day with a perfect score, without my line-by-line help on every question
      I don’t think I made her feel less intelligent though.


      • That’s good to know. Maybe she was using you to revise #smartmove, some people ask questions they already know the answers to just to re-enforce or boost their academic confidence.


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